September is a big month for birthdays in our family. Our son recently attended his first birthday party and had a wonderful time, and his birthday is right around the corner. Every time we are out shopping, our son will say "I want....for my birthday". Everything. We pass a giant bulldozer on the side of the road working "Mama, I want bulldozer for my birthday". We are having a conversation about animals in Africa "Mama, I want a cub for my birthday!". We are choosing presents for our friends "Mama, can I have this for my birthday? Please?"
In all the ways that I thought we were doing okay in the parenting arena- I feel like I messed up somewhere along the way. How did my child become a child who "WANTS"?! We talk about how maybe he will get certain things for his birthday, but that he can't have everything. We talk about how it isn't so much about the gift, it is about the people and relationships that matter. These are abstract concepts for an almost 3 year old.
I want our son to grow up knowing that it isn't about the material things, that there are much bigger things to focus on. He has such a kind heart and already shows amazing amounts of care and concern.
How do you handle the "gimmies" with your children?
Beth is a mom first and foremost. She is also a trained Montessori teacher who is passionate about making the lofty ideals of the Montessori philosophy more real and manageable for families.