This holiday break has reminded me about the joys and challenges being a mom. A mom who is trying to get my little business off the ground, a mom who will be teaching 3 courses at 2 universities in a few weeks (and working feverishly to prepare!), a mom who is working on her relationship with her husband, a mom who is working on herself, trying to be the best version of herself. This is a picture of me, working in the car on the way home from visiting my family while my hubby took our 3 year old son into a coffee shop to go to the bathroom and came out with my favorite drink to keep me going. No makeup, messy hair, but full of appreciation. Stress and worry, for sure!
I know that I often put on a mask that everything is great and the images I share paint a picture of a family that has it all together. Truth- we don't. Does my child eat fast food sometimes? Yep. Does my child watch "Mighty Machines" and "Mister Rogers" more than I would like? Yep. Is our house messy sometimes? Of course! Does my son know that he is loved and cared for? Absolutely.
Another truth. I know that you don't have it all together also. And that is good! It is in the moments of being real and vulnerable and honest with ourselves and with each other that have such an impact on our children. Children need to see us as parents with the full range of human emotions. Were there times over the past few days that I saw pictures on social media and felt less than or that my choices as a parent weren't good enough? Oh my word, yes. Instead of wishing for something different, I acknowledge that feeling and then take a deep breath for what we do have and for the conscious decisions we are making in raising our son. A deep breath in appreciation for our health, for a warm home, for friends and family who love us, and for the connection to this big, wide earth.
There are so many people who are struggling with things that we know nothing about. And there are people suffering all over the world in countless ways. Our world needs more people who are real, who show up and who act with love, compassion and respect. By living this way for our children, we are giving them permission to be real and to make mistakes, we are showing them how to be a world-changer within their school, within their community, and within the world.
Beth is a mom first and foremost. She is also a trained Montessori teacher who is passionate about making the lofty ideals of the Montessori philosophy more real and manageable for families.