The power of YES.
There are times our to-do lists are longer than our arms, that the house is a mess, and you are plugging away, trying to stay afloat. The image of a swan looking graceful, but paddling so fast underneath... Just stop. Give yourself a moment.
Today was one of those days in my house. I was not home last week to be with my family, so my amazing husband was here, holding everything together. And interviewing for a job and nailing it! So this week was the week of catch-up, but there is still. so. much. to. do. Husband took sweet son on an "adventure" (errands to the garden center and the grocery store) so that I could have time to work.
They got home and I was in the middle of work, but my son wanted to talk and play. So I stopped, I had some Adele playing and there was something about her music that speaks to him... I don't know if if the beats, but he and I had an impromptu dance party. Then he sat down and started coloring while I was working on my computer. He stopped and said "Mama, hold my hand?" YES. Yes. Always.
There is something that he is working through right now and he just needed some reassurance. How much easier would it have been to say "not now honey", but then I stop and remember, he is my why. These precious moments are fleeting. As we were dancing together, I remembered all of the other times I have danced with this sweet, spirited child. Dancing was one of the few things that would calm him down, so I would dance to the Philip Philip's song, Home, when he was a colicky infant. We danced when we moved to Cincinnati, a dance of joy. We dance when we are frustrated, or when the world is confusing. When his emotions are too much for him, we dance. Dancing seems to give us an outlet to process everything. So today, we danced, but today, he was much more independent. He has his own style (oddly reminiscent of my brother's moves!), and he owns it. His laughter and smiles. YES.
Does that mean that I always say Yes, oh no! There are definitely no's... probably more no's than I would like to admit to, but my point-- lean in to those moments when you have that chance to say YES and just let go. Let go of the expectations. Let go of looking all put together. Let go of what you think other people will think, and just dance. The message you are sending to your children when you allow yourself to be messy and allow yourself to feel your emotions and to be okay with yourself--- you are giving them permission to say YES to themselves. To tap into that primitive self that we all have, that just lets go. YES to being silly and goofy and dancing with abandon. YES to being yourself. YES to life. YES to the sorrow and the pain and the joy and the confusion. YES.
Beth is a mom first and foremost. She is also a trained Montessori teacher who is passionate about making the lofty ideals of the Montessori philosophy more real and manageable for families.